Stop swallowing that “accept yourself just the way you are” bullshit.
Today I'm not even going to make references to anime. I'm going to tell you clearly:
“Accepting yourself as you are” is the excuse that has avoided the most success throughout this century.
What are you like in the first place?
Are you fat, or ugly, or too shy? Maybe you are too chatty, boring...?
It doesn't cost that much to change, really. Stop focusing on fitting in with what you have and are.
If there is something that makes you insecure or does not fully convince you about yourself, you have the obligation to try to change it. Now that is self-love. Accept that you want to change what makes you feel insecure.
If you think that you don't flirt because you have crooked teeth and that people don't know how to appreciate the inside, the problem is yours, not everyone else's.
Of course people don't know how to appreciate the interior. You do not know either. It takes a lot of time with a person to appreciate them for who they are.
You can also be the most beautiful person on the planet and be as boring as a cactus.
But if you have any flaws and you can work on fixing them even a little: DO IT.
That “loving yourself” thing is bullshit.
If you have crooked teeth and that creates some insecurity, by fixing them you are not going to stop being you. You are probably a much more confident you.
If you have bad social relationships, don't say “I'm difficult to deal with,” don't be an idiot. Work on changing this. That you will continue to be you, but in a healthier environment.
Get informed. There are courses and books for everything.
In summary. Don't try to love yourself so much with all your insecurities and move your ass to change or overcome them.
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